This blog is dedicated to our dear friend, Nosson Deitsch OBM, who was tragically torn away from us on Lag B’Omer 5770.

Nosson was a one-of-a kind Bochur who influenced many people, from all ages and backgrounds. He had a perpetual smile on his face and an extremely generous heart. He would do the biggest favor for a friend with only a moment’s notice. All those who knew him feel they had a unique relationship with him.

There are many untold stories of his selflessness, kindness, and the affect he had on countless lives. Please share your story, so that others can get a glimpse into his unique character and towering accomplishments.

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Excited to help

By Adam Cohen

I met Nosson one day as he wandered through my office building looking for Jews. I was happy to meet with him, because almost two years ago, I began a process of very serious introspection and accompanied by religious study. He sat with me and I explained to him that I was working on building a habit of daily prayer, trying to fix my character flaws, that I was studying regularly; including regular meetings with a Rabbi ,and with classes on various Jewish web sites, such as Chabad and Aish HaTorah.

Nosson was very excited to help. We talked regularly. He would never miss an opportunity to come by when he was in town. I benefitted greatly from my conversations with him. Though my progress was (and continues to be) slow, he understood that the process of real spiritual change does not occur overnight and he (with the help of his brothers) was always willing to help me when I needed help.

It was amazing to me, on some more difficult days, I would pray to God saying that "This is too hard for me" or that "I am just not a good enough person, if you want me to do this then please send me help." Invariably, those were the days that Nosson showed up in the office. I am very thankful that he was there. He has helped me develop the awareness that God controls all things, answers our prayers, and helps us to achieve things we think are impossible.

This belief, which he helped develop within me, makes his passing all the more incomprehensible and distressing.

He was an incredible, passionate, kind, hard working person who as far as I know did nothing but try to bring God's light into the world. He brought me (and others like me) Matzo, Honey cakes, and Chanukah candles in their proper times. There is no reason that I can comprehend for his early and tragic end.

On Monday after hearing the sad news, I was discussing Nosson with a friend of mine. We talked of our inability to explain events such as these and how it becomes possible to deny the existence of God, or deny his power to control the events of our lives. In His wisdom, he has set up a world where this is a real option. As hard as we try, there is no rationale that satisfies us and no pattern that we can discern.

I know intellectually, that it must be possible to deny God or our acceptance of Him is meaningless. Emotionally, I would prefer not to have had the choice. On Monday afternoon, hours after I received word of Nosson's passing, I made my choice. Regardless of my inability to explain or comprehend it, how I think it is unfair, unjust, and unreasonable... I choose to believe that God has a plan and that he is in control of the events of this world. The thought is terrifying and comforting. I understand this belief is a mitzvah and whatever merit there is to it from someone like me belongs to Nosson and to the family that nurtured and supported him to achieve his purpose in this world.

The path to Torah is not an easy one. I am thankful that Nosson joyfully accompanied me through a part of my journey.

I wish you comfort in your grief. You have my prayers, because I have nothing else of meaning to offer.

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